The Big Bad Patriarchy!

Posted: November 3, 2013 in Uncategorized

Ah, the Patriarchy. As a man, I’m so glad the patriarchy exists. As a white male it protects me from false rape allegations, it protects me from extremely tenuous domestic abuse allegations, it allows me to serve less time in prison than anyone else, it stops me from having to pay ridiculous amounts of child support and alimony, it protects me from work fatalities, it means I can earn more than anyone else even if they do the exact same job and it means I’m held on a pedestal of victimhood that allows me to pretty much complain about anything.

 

Aaaaaand, take a breath. You see, patriarchy does absolutely none of those things. In fact, the complete opposite is true. Feminists claim we live in a patriarchy, they claim we live in a society that is run and controlled by men, for men, a society that openly raises children to hate women, a society that elevates men above all others, that allows men to oppress and subjugate women without a second though. If that’s true, then how come that, rather extensive, list in the first paragraph exists? If patriarchy is my protector, why is it that men who are accused of rape have their name and picture plastered all over the news, how come is it that men accused of rape are character assassinated in public, with very little compassion, how come is it that the same level of vitriol is not replicated when a man is found innocent of a rape charge, or it’s proven that the accuser lied?

 Patriarchy fucking sucks. 

You see, as much as the feminists love to claim that every single man in the world benefits from the patriarchy, the stark truth is – we don’t. We don’t for one simple reason, we don’t live in a Patriarchy. We live in a patriarchal society in as much as our country is lead by a man (after all, patriarchy comes from paternal, meaning father), but there is no system that automatically elevates men over women, there’s no system that allows me to subjugate and oppress women whenever I want, there’s no system that I inherently benefit from.

 Take a look at the dictionary definition of Patriarchy:

 http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/patriarchy

 Supreme? Legal dependence? Sure, because paying out of your nose for child support and alimony is such a benefit to a man’s life isn’t it, being made to hand over half your monthly wage to an ex-wife so she can keep up the same standard of living is a prime example of how the patriarchy benefits men.

 Of course, when it comes to feminism, hypocrisy is never far behind. We live in a patriarchy, they shout, our sons are raised to hate women, they shout, you can’t see privilege when you have it!

 But then, you get shit like this:

 http://i1276.photobucket.com/albums/y472/johnsalmonworld/IMG_2583_zps471b0392.jpg

 Wait a minute? We live in a patriarchy that benefits men and allows them to oppress women, but we also live in a patriarchy that hurts men and presents them as animalistic, monolithic and stupid. Which one is it? Either I’ve completely got the wrong end of the, rather huge, stick, or you just change the definition of Patriarchy to suit your own needs at any one particular time?

 It would seem the latter. The important, and hilarious, thing to note about this particular meme, much like the meme I shared on the previous blog entry, is how wonderfully ignorant it is. It makes such an outlandish claim, based on the most confusing of definitions. Patriarchy benefits men when they want it to, but when they want to present themselves as the saviour of both sexes, not just women, patriarchy is a system that hurts men as well. Isn’t it funny how they can use two wildly different definitions of the same word, and both ways its feminism that wins. One the one hand they’re the heroic warriors who fight the evil, oppressive, male dominated social structure, but on the other hand they’re the heroic saviours who are on hand to rescue men from the evil, oppressive, offensive social structure that paints them all wildly with the same brush. Confused? Me too.

 You see, as much as feminists claim that they fight for men’s issues too, and that we shouldn’t tar all feminists with the same brush (NAFALT and all that), the truth is, they really don’t give two shits about men’s rights, not unless it someone benefits their promotion of female superiority. If they did fight for men’s rights, then I wouldn’t have to write the first paragraph of this blog. If they did fight for men’s rights then I wouldn’t have created this blog, there would be absolutely no reason for me to speak out against their movement. If they fought for true equality across both sexes I would proudly wear my black ‘this is what a feminist looks like’ t-shirt, I would happily do my utmost to help with any battles they fought, I would gladly do everything I could to ensure they were victorious.

 But, they don’t fight for equality across the sexes. They don’t, at all. Take a look at the bottom section of that picture – ‘Feminism holds that men are capable of more – are more than that.’

 How heartwarming. Here come the warriors, the enemies of patriarchy, the victorious veiled vanquishers of the violent, vociferous PATRIARCHY that violates and victimises our very existence.

 Feminism hold that men are capable of more than being monolithic, stupid, unchanging, incapable, animalistic cunts. It’s feminism that says men are more than that. Well, I disagree. I believe it’s feminism that perpetuates those very stereotypes, and no amount of philosophical jargon will change that. Feminism holds that men are more than monsters, does it? Well, here are some quotes by some very prominent feminists:

  

  • “I feel that ‘man-hating’ is an honourable and viable political act, that the oppressed have a right to class-hatred against the class that is oppressing them.”  – Robin Morgan, Ms. Magazine Editor

 

  • “To call a man an animal is to flatter him; he’s a machine, a walking dildo.”  -– Valerie Solanas

 

  • “I want to see a man beaten to a bloody pulp with a high-heel shoved in his mouth, like an apple in the mouth of a pig.” — Andrea Dworkin

 

  • “Rape is nothing more or less than a conscious process of intimidation by which all men keep all women in a state of fear” — Susan Brownmiller

 

  • “The more famous and powerful I get the more power I have to hurt men.” — Sharon Stone

 

  • “In a patriarchal society, all heterosexual intercourse is rape because women, as a group, are not strong enough to give meaningful consent.” — Catherine MacKinnon

 

  • “The proportion of men must be reduced to and maintained at approximately 10% of the human race.” — Sally Miller Gearhart

 

  • “Men who are unjustly accused of rape can sometimes gain from the experience.” – Catherine Comins

 

  • “All men are rapists and that’s all they are” — Marilyn French

 

  • “Probably the only place where a man can feel really secure is in a maximum security prison, except for the imminent threat of release.” — Germaine Greer.

 

But, but NAFALT, you can’t lump in the radfems with normal feminists, that’s not fair. Well, normally I would agree, except the quotations presented above are all from feminists that are extremely influential in the feminist movement. Perhaps if the quotes above don’t represent the feminism you identify with, it’s time to come up with a new label. Time to move away from a movement that can twist the definition of a word to suit whatever cause they want to it, a movement that can present itself as the warrior that will save us all, while at the same time being full of members that are committing the exact same actions they claim they are fighting. Feminism does not hold that I am ‘more than that’, feminism furthers the idea that I am exactly ‘that’, for the sole reason of justifying their existence. They need us to think of patriarchy as harmful, they need us to think that we need them. They create this veil of mystery that we are supposed to buy in to, who are the heroes who will save me? Are they, perchance, the same moronic harpies who allow this idea to pervade society? Are they the ones who spread the ideas they then claim to fight? What a vicious circle we live in.

Mainstream feminists that still hold power and are looked up to today are allowed to make these statements. Women in positions of power, of respect, of authority perpetuating rumours that men are animalistic, incapable, monolithic and stupid. Patriarchy hurts men? Feminism holds that men are more than Patriarchy makes them out to be?

Oh, how very wrong you are.

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