I need feminism because I fucking love being a victim!

Posted: October 28, 2013 in Uncategorized

You’ve all seen the meme – women hold up signs that say I need feminism because and then underneath is written a reason that shows how horribly oppressed women are in the western world. Do they comment on important things, like being shot in the head for criticising the Taliban? Hell no, they complain about things like the ‘stare rape’ and refusing to be ‘another female stereotype’. Not quite sure what they even mean to be honest. A lot of what these pictures do is highlight just how ridiculous western feminism is. Stare rape? Way to undermine actual rape you complete dullard. Don’t want to be another female stereotype? Then…don’t be one, I don’t see how it’s that difficult. You don’t need an entire movement to help you not be a stereotype for fuck’s sake. Here’s how you stop being a stereotype – you find out what you consider to be a ‘female stereotype’ and then…just…don’t be that person. Simple, no?

I’m a metal drummer (as in, I drum heavy metal music, I’m not made of steel), I have long hair and, depending on my mood, a beard. Pretty stereotypical rock drummer. But here’s the deal-breaker, I’m a secondary school teacher, so I tie my hair back every day, put on a shirt and tie and go and teach some kids. Not a very stereotypical thing for a rock drummer to do. Break the cycle on your own, you don’t need anyone to help you do that. You don’t want to be stereotype, don’t fucking be one, it really is that simple.

All these memes show, to me anyway, is how much of a victim culture feminism has created. They talk about why they need feminism, but a lot of what they say is mind-numbingly stupid. Take a look at some of these:

http://search.babylon.com/?s=img&babsrc=HP_ss&rlz=0&q=i need feminism because

Your mom taught you calculus? It should be accepted that men are for women’s rights? Making a comment like ‘you’ve got the man gene’ is insulting? Rape is rape shouldn’t be radical? Wolf whistling is degrading? The only one of those that even slightly has any merit is the last one, and you know what, if you don’t like being wolf whistled then tell the tool who’s doing it, don’t run to your pen and paper and write a whiny little note about it.

If your mum taught you calculus, that’s fantastic, I don’t see what feminism can do with that one seeing as most secondary school teachers are female. It should be accepted that men are for women’s rights? Who says they aren’t? Just because men don’t call themselves feminists doesn’t mean they aren’t for women’s rights. Those who fight unequivocally for women’s rights by blindly believing everything the feminists say are called manginas, not heroes. Making a comment like ‘you’ve got the man gene’ is simply a little play on the stereotype that women can’t read maps. When I’m asked to go and get something from the store cupboard at work I get told to ‘make sure I don’t just have a man look”. Do you see me with my pen and paper? Nope, because I have a sense of humour that’s why. I could go on, but the absurdity of the statements on those pages just boils my brain. Ultimately, what this meme boils down to is women (or more specifically, feminist women) will take any situation possible and play themselves as the victim.

It doesn’t do anything to highlight their cause, for me anyway. What it does do is insult those women who don’t have a victim complex by implying that women need the protection of feminism to walk down the street. It insults the intelligence and sense of humour of those women who can take a joke, and who can accept that some stereotypes exist. Women can’t read maps and men can’t multitask. Gonna get pissy over that? Go ahead, your tears are delicious!

Normally I can just laugh off these daft pictures, or console myself with the fact that there are women out there who make the ‘I don’t need feminism because’ pictures. But sometimes, just sometimes, a picture appears that makes me stop in my tracks. One of these insipid pictures appears that makes me do a double take and, just for a moment, makes me angry.

These are two pictures I saw recently, both extremely similar in wording and expressing an identical sentiment:

http://i1276.photobucket.com/albums/y472/johnsalmonworld/IMG_2585_zpsd1d88102.jpg

http://i1276.photobucket.com/albums/y472/johnsalmonworld/IMG_2591_zps6b6c43ba.jpg

I’ll quote the first one, for the simple reason that it’s said by a man which will automatically piss the feminists off, “If it would destroy a 12 year old boy to be called a girl, what are we then teaching him about girls?” Now that quote is attributed to Tony Porter. One cursory glance at Google shows me that Tony Porter is a massive mangina, so automatically his words need to be taken with a giant handful of salt. However, it’s a sentiment that has obviously caught on with the feminists, as the second picture shows. The thing is, this picture could go either way, and I’ll explain why in a minute. But first, let’s take a look at the victim complex. Look at the use of language in both pictures. Words like ‘destroy’, ‘worst’ and ‘ever’ just show how manipulative these pictures are trying to be.

This is my point, the feminists can always spin something 180 degrees and, even if it’s nothing to do with them, and make it 100% about them and they way they are made to feel. I can think of so many things that, as a 12 year old, would ‘destroy’ me much more than being compared to a girl. Being told I couldn’t go round to a friend’s house, being told I wasn’t allowed to play rugby or go on the N64 if I’d been naughty, being told I wasn’t allowed to go to the shops because they were too far, being accused of something I didn’t do, being bollocked for something I did do, being bullied for being ginger, being bullied for being fat, being told I suck at a subject in school, being shouted at by a PE teacher for not being fast enough, and the list could go on and on. When you’re 12 years old, it’s pretty easy for something to ‘destroy’ you, so I would really like the feminists to get off their high horse and start complaining about things that actually matter, you know, like, terrorists shooting little girls in the head. That’s something worth getting your pen out for!

The second thing that this particular meme fails to consider is the 180 flip of that statement. Let me show you:

“If it were to destroy a 12 year old girl to be called a boy, what are we then teaching her about boys?”

Could we not apply the exact same sentiment to that version of the argument? Why are we always focusing on one gender’s side of things when such inflammatory comments can be applied to both sexes? I feel I’m in a great position as a teacher to see the kinds of things that both sexes go through, things that the feminists just don’t, or won’t, see. I teach 12 year old boys and girls and, let me tell you, comparing one sex to the other either a) never happens, or b) is met with a simple cry of “euuuuurgh” and the whole thing is laughed off. It says a lot about the feminist movement when 12 year old boys and girls have a better understanding of humour and sarcasm than grown men and women. 12 year old boys and girls are pretty good at shrugging stuff off, they’re pretty resilient. I’ve seen enough Vulcan death grips and ear punches that result in immediate apologies to know that, sometimes, you just gotta deal out some swift justice there and then. If a 12 year old girl whipped a pen and piece of paper out every time sometime said something she didn’t like I’d never finish a fucking lesson!

And then there’s the third thing – why shame the male character? Why shouldn’t a boy be offended if he’s compared to a girl? If he’s born male, identifies as male and is treated as a male by everyone he comes in to contact with, why should he see it as acceptable if someone compares him to a girl? Why should anyone be accepting if compared to the opposite sex? It would destroy him because he’s not a girl, and he never will be. It comes down to another feminist victim complex – anyone who doesn’t see the female sex as superior is sexist. What are we teaching little boys if we tell them it’s not the worst thing to be compared to a girl? We’re teaching him that his personality and gender mean absolutely nothing, that he should be honoured to be compared to the superior sex, not offended or outraged that somebody is not seeing the worth inherent within him just by being a man.

There’s absolutely nothing wrong with identifying as male, in the same way I can understand how frustrating it is when women get compared to men. If women are allowed to get pissed off when we consider them to have ‘manly’ or ‘masculine’ traits, then why should we be so outraged when a boy feels the same when feminine traits are applied to them.

Here’s an idea: let boys be boys and girls be girls. Let them grow and develop in their own way, and let’s stop trying to shame them into dismissing their own identity because it’s seen as dirty or somehow not as worthy as being a girl. If it destroys a boy to be compared to a girl, perhaps look at the reasons why that boy is destroyed, perhaps look at how that completely erases any male identity he may have, perhaps look at the implications of a phrase that effectively says “you should be grateful to be compared to a girl because girls are superior”.

By playing the victim and implying that being compared to a woman is the ‘worst’ thing that can ‘ever’ happen to a boy you are completely twisting what is a natural feeling and simply creating an even bigger victim complex. Let’s just take it forward 10 years, that 12 year old boy is now a 22 year old man, I can sure think of a few more things that would ‘destroy’ him more than being called a girl:

False rape accusation

False domestic violence accusation

Being laughed at as the victim of domestic violence

Being laughed at as the victim of rape

Being demonised for earning more

Being demonised as a potential rapist

Having his child taken away by a corrupt family court system.

The list goes on

I’m pretty sure, in the grand scheme of things, being compared to a girl is a pretty minimal thing to happen to him in his life.

Victim complex, thy name is feminism.

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Comments
  1. ayamsirias says:

    Nice post.

  2. lisa says:

    Please read Catherine Mackinnon before poisoning the world with your uneducated views. XO

    • andrea twerkin says:

      Catherine Mackinnon? lol u mean dat one broad who said dat all men are rapists n dat not is all non-lesbian sex is rape but literally all male sexuality is culturally toxic/evil & dangerous? yeahhh b lmao dont wanna misrepresent dat xD

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