Rape Culture? Yeah, let’s talk about it!

Posted: October 24, 2013 in Uncategorized

Rape Culture is the idea that rape has become so normalised in a society that we trivialise, excuse or even condone it. It’s a system where we blame the victims rather than the perpetrators, we are constantly reminded that 1 in 4 women will be raped in their lifetime, that women can’t even walk the street alone at night without being raped, that rape is, apparently, worse than being killed. And yet, through misguided campaigns like Dont Be That Guy, we are also constantly reminded that rape is a predominantly male crime, with predominantly female victims. Or so the feminists would have you believe. Females are incapable of raping males, or so the feminists would have you believe. Women don’t falsely accuse men of raping them, or so the feminists would have you believe. Rape culture, let’s talk about that!




Much like my last blog, I think I’ll start with a link. Just take a minute to peruse that link. As if I haven’t already given it away, I’m going to talk a little about Rape Culture, something the feminists claim is rife in western society. Well, guess what, I don’t agree. I don’t agree for one particular reason – feminists seem to think that Rape Culture only applies to women, as ever.

Just to focus on that one site for a moment. First of all, are you having a laugh? That site seriously exists? Rating female sex offenders on how attractive they are? Basically, what this site does is perpetuates the myth that female sex offenders are hot, and any man who has sex with them, no matter their age, are lucky bastards who probably enjoyed it. To make it worse they blatantly mention the double standard that this who article revolves around, and yet don’t feel any guilt about going ahead with it anyway. “Oh, I know rape is wrong, but let me just publish these pictures of women getting raped and rate their hotness. She’s ugly, she probably loved it!” How long do you think that site would last? And just the final nail in the coffin, that is only 25 sex offenders, try this one: 


Yep, double the amount of depraved, callous, evil but ultimately sexy shitheads.

 It also proves two things; 1) women can be just as monstrous as men and 2) they serve extremely lenient sentences, if any at all. Now let’s clear a couple of things up so there are as few inconsistencies in this post as possible – there are a couple of women in that article who did serve serious jail time, but none served more than 10 years. In fact, only one served 10 years, most of them got off with either suspended sentences or probation. There are a couple whose crime was sleeping with an 18 year old student in the state of Texas, where such an act is illegal even if the act is consensual. What it doesn’t state is whether the act was consensual or not. It doesn’t matter if the student is 18, or if the law’s a bit backward, without quantifying whether the act was consensual it was still rape. And another thing, the law is the law, no matter how backward it is, you don’t break it. If you do, expect to get punished, it’s as simple as that.

With that out of the way I want to bring up another point, how many of the women were charged with rape or statutory rape? 4! That’s it, 4 out of 25 women were charged with rape or statutory rape. The wording of the other 21 is symptomatic of how we look at female sex offenders. They were charged with ‘sexual assault’ or having a ‘sexual relationship’. Any time there are reports of a female raping or sexual abusing a young male it’s always portrayed as a sexual relationship, or sexual contact, but it’s very, very rarely described as rape or sexual abuse, even when it’s clearly rape or sexual abuse. If it’s a man arrested then it’s rape all over, no doubts, nothing.

It’s this attitude difference towards male and female sex offenders that is the real issue. In sexual abuse cases, the accuser is afforded anonymity for life, the accused often has their name splashed all over the front page of the newspapers, especially if they’re a man. It gives newspapers free reign to print pretty much whatever they want, whether it’s mere speculation or not. As long as they prefix everything with ‘alleged’ or ‘allegedly’ then it’s alright because they aren’t saying he definitely did all those things, just that that’s what’s been alleged. It can destroy lives, it can ruin careers, it can break apart families and it’s something that needs to be addressed.

There’s been a definite push recently, especially in the case of Michael Le Vell, the UK soap actor acquitted of 12 counts of abusing a child, for keeping all parties involved in rape accusations anonymous. That includes both accuser and accused. Of course, that hasn’t gone down very well at all, with people claiming that the fact that the accused’s name has been published has, in the past, convinced other people to report past crimes. If that shows one thing, it’s male disposability. Let’s not give this man anonymity because there’s a chance, by throwing him to the wolves, it might inspire other abuse sufferers to come forward.

I’ll say it now, rape is abhorrent. It’s a truly despicable crime that, rightly so, is condemned by pretty much every rational thinker in this country (this country being the UK). As I said in my domestic violence blog, I’m not trying to deny its existence, there are some animals out there who commit rape, there are some animals out there who deserve to be put away for a very long time, possibly never to taste freedom again. But, and this is a rather large but, in fact it’s a huge motherfucking BUT, that is not all men. Men are not solely responsible for being rapists. Shock, horror, women can rape too. And women do rape. But have you ever seen a front page news story of a male being raped? No, me neither.

Much like domestic violence, numbers on rape are sketchy at best. With an ever-changing definition of what actually constitutes rape, and the feminists flat out refusal to enter into any form of mature debate about the grey areas of when it is and when it isn’t rape it’s nigh on impossible to really figure out true statistics. We are constantly fed the ‘1 in 4 women will get raped in their lifetime’ routine, but so many studies have either completely debunked it or shown the initial collation of statistics to be so flaky that, even at absolute best, it’s sole purpose is to show how statistics can easily be manipulated to fit an agenda. It’s impossible to lend any credence to it whatsoever.

But what of rape culture? The idea that rape is so prevalent it’s become normalised, accepted even. I will counter that by saying – where have you ever seen any news report, or advert, or TV programme, or magazine, or music video where rape is actively condoned. Never, that’s when. There are forms of media out there that do show rape, Downton Abbey being one recently and I believe, Coronation Street has done a rape storyline recently. Pretty much every major soap has. Hollyoaks had a male on male rape storyline, Coronation Street had Toyah Battersby raped, Eastenders has one of the Slater children raped by her uncle when she was young and Emmerdale had Lisa Dingle raped. However, those storylines are not dealt with in any manner other than dead serious. There’s no comedic angle, there’s no laughter or mirth in any of their presentations. The media rightly treats the stories with the respect they deserve and after every show the channel they are broadcast on will offer an advice line for people affected by the show’s storyline.

A TV show showing a character being raped does not, and never will, re-inforce, or prove, that we live in a rape culture. No more than seeing a character mugged or hit by a car proves we live in a ‘mugging culture’ or ‘hit-and-run’ culture. Just because something happens, it doesn’t mean it’s prevalent in society or that we base our entire culture around it.

One interesting thing to note, though, one majorly interesting thing to note, is that, aside from the Hollyoaks storyline, every victim was female, and every perpetrator was male. If that says anything about ‘rape culture’ it’s that there is such a one-sided view of rape that we don’t bat an eyelid when these storylines keep happening. We live in a culture that perpetuates the myth of man=rapist/woman=victim. In researching which soaps had rape storylines I found out that Hollyoaks is planning another rape storyline for 2014, this one dealing with male rape. Interesting, you may think, a storyline about a male being raped, maybe times are moving forward. Well, no, obviously it’s a male on male rape storyline, because anything else would need to challenge the status quo and present men as victims of women, which we can’t possibly allow. We can’t possibly show women to be evil, or vindictive, or evil because that’s not society.

I put it to you like this – if we constantly push only one side of the rape coin, if we constantly show women being raped by men, with the occasional man raped by a man, because that shows we’re being conscientious of other types of rape too, how are you promoting anything other than an unfair stereotype of male sexuality and masculinity in general. If rape culture does exist, and I don’t believe it does, then the feminists have it completely backwards.

If we take the UK as an example, rape in this country is not accepted, it’s not condoned, it’s not normalised. Any time rape threats have been issued on Twitter they’ve been deleted and, in some cases people have been arrested and charged. Is that indicative of a country gripped by rape culture? When storylines on TV deal with rape, advice lines are given, the press covers it in a supportive manner and the characters in the show are all supportive. Rapists are vilified in the press, they are condemned and ostracised, careers ruined completely. Is that the modus operandi of a normalised rape culture? Talking about rape does not equal rape culture.

The one thing I’ve conveniently missed out of the above paragraph is the gender to which it applies. Everything in the above paragraph is all about women. When it comes to rape of men, by women, there are no soap storylines to raise awareness and therefore no supportive characters, there are no advice lines made public and no press coverage. Surely, if we live in a rape culture, it’s a culture that ignores the rape of men? Surely if we live in a rape culture it’s one that believes only men commit rape and, on the extremely rare occasion a man is raped it’s always by another man. Is that not perpetuating rape culture? The myth that rape is solely a male crime? I have three examples of how rape of men is normalised. Two of them in the same film:

Super – a film starring Rainn Wilson about a man who becomes a vigilante after losing his wife to a local crime boss. There are two rape scenes in this film. The first one is when Rainn’s character thinks he’s about to get arrested and daydreams about being put in prison, where he is quite graphically raped by another man, all whilst crying pathetically. It’s a scene played for laughs, the way Wilson’s character is crying, the way the rapist is laughing, it’s supposed to be over the top. The second is when his sidekick, Boltie, rapes him on a settee before they go out for their final battle.

The scene in question:


Now, comments are disable for that video, so I found another one:

And another one:

Read the comments there. Better yet, read those comments and the comments on this IMDB thread:


That scene, to me, is rape. No two ways about it. In that scene, Libby rapes Frank. Yet, online there are people who are flat out refusing to call it so, people who are saying they were actually aroused by seeing an attractive young woman having non-consensual sex with a man who is clearly trying to force her off. What the video doesn’t show you is right after he pushes her off, Frank runs to the bathroom and vomits. It was about as perfect a rape scene as you could want. Predatory woman, non—consenting man, sexual intercourse and vomiting afterwards. How are people confused?

My third example – Mad Men. Now, I’ve never seen Mad Men but I came across this article:


Again, seems like rape to me, and yet there are people out there who are saying it was ‘sex’ or that he ‘wanted it’. Wait a minute, aren’t those the reasons that feminists give to suggest we live in a rape culture towards women? If you follow the links in the above article to the features on the ‘gray rape’ scene (from another show I’ve never watched) you can see the attitude towards ambiguous sexual encounters when the female is on the receiving end. It didn’t read much like people were condoning it to me, yet the complete opposite is true for the Don Draper scene.

We go back to the link at the start of this entry. Male rape victims are constantly undermined by society’s fascination with attractive female rapists. Every time you say ‘wow, she’s hot’ you completely destroy what little self confidence that victim had. Effectively, you are questioning the victims own sense of being by questioning why they wouldn’t want to have sex with their rapist. When have you ever seen that happen with a female victim? That’s right, never. Off to Google I went and typed in ‘sexiest male rapists’, the exact opposite of what I typed in to get the link at the start of the entry. This is the 1st page of results:


See how many pages there are dedicated to sexy male rapists? No, that’s because there aren’t any. That’s because the whole idea is fucking deplorable. How can you possibly explain creating a site that rates rapists by attraction? It’s scum, it achieves nothing, except to devalue the worth of any victim of female-on-male rape. “What, you didn’t enjoy being fucked by her? Well, you’re obviously not a real man, a real man would know how lucky he was”. Seriously, you think that’s a good implication to be sending out there in to the world? I understand that questioning the victim is a necessary part of any crime, the fact that rape victims had to relive the ordeal makes it more traumatic, but it’s not something that can be avoided. However, by then taking that traumatic experience, an experience the feminists would have us believe is the most traumatic experience a woman could experience, and turning it into a form of sexual gratification is only furthering a hugely damaging myth.

Rape Culture? No. Criminally negligent under-reporting of a hugely traumatic, life-changing event. Fuck yes. If we are a society that is raised to hate women, I hate to think what you’d call what we do to men. If refusing to acknowledge male victims of domestic violence wasn’t enough, we claim to acknowledge male victims of rape, but only when it’s committed by other men, because, isn’t it obvious, women can’t rape. I know it, you know it, we all know it, these women certainly know it:


The rape of women is rightly treated with the respect and sorrow it deserves. Rape accusers are given anonymity, they’re given advice lines to call, they have TV storylines that help raise awareness to their cause, a feminist campaign that raises their supposed suffering to levels of apoplectic hyperbole, they have the feminists to defend them when they cry rape, they have the feminists constantly dictating what is and isn’t rape whenever it suits them, to the point that I actually have no idea what UK law constitutes as rape. Last time I checked female rape of men wasn’t rape, but fell under a separate category that was, in all but name, the same as rape, but not rape. Confused? Me too.

UK law doesn’t recognise female on male rape as rape, how fucked up is that?! We live in a rape culture that normalises rape towards women, so much so that careers have been destroyed through accusations of rape, even if the accused has been found innocent. We live in a culture that trivialises rape towards women, by having major national TV shows using rape storylines as a way of raising awareness. We live in a society that condones rape by blaming the victim, except we really don’t and using the insipid opinions of a few arseholes on Twitter proves absolutely fuck all.

What we do live in is a culture that refuses to believe women can rape, and when they do rape, refuses to actually charge them with rape. We sexualise female rapists, rate their attractiveness, acknowledge double standards and then plough on regardless, treat clear female on male rape as an anomaly that is so extremely rare as to not be worth mentioning, treat clear female on male in a film as ambiguous or ‘arousing’, trivialise prison rape by making it a joke, condone female on male rape by calling it ‘empowering’ or saying the male victim ‘got what he wanted’!

Rape Culture? No, you can fuck off with your continuous victim culture. You want to expose rape culture, try by accepting publicly that women are depraved fuckers just as much as men, that rape is not solely the domain of men, and, for fuck’s sake, stop acting like every little slightly ambiguous sexual encounter is rape. Rape culture is not the condemnation of rape of females, as happens in this country, it is not the mass support network available to victims of rape, or the laws that help prevent it from happening, it is the outright refusal to accept anything outside of your own beliefs. Feminists I’m looking at you. Open your eyes, drop the victim culture, understand that not all men are animals, and not all women are saints, and actually understand that the rape culture you so eagerly talk about has got nothing to do with you or your stupid cause, but everything to do with the victims you so callously ignore. The victims you ignore and leave to their own trauma, while doing nothing to condemn the numerous sites out there that sexualise female rapists. That right there is condoning rape. That right there is your rape culture.

Now, get off your fucking high horses, stop being so God-Damn blind and do something to help ALL rape victims, regardless of gender. Until then, fuck you and your pathetic victim mentality.

Addendum – A site you might find interesting, I haven’t managed to read all of it, but there is some really good stuff on there:


  1. “What the video doesn’t show you is right after he pushes her off, Frank runs to the bathroom and vomits. It was about as perfect a rape scene as you could want. Predatory woman, non—consenting man, sexual intercourse and vomiting afterwards. How are people confused?”

    That is insane. It doesn’t get any more clear that we’re dealing with pure evil than this. Great blog John and I love all the documentation you provided. I will be showing this one to some friends.

    • johnsalmon86 says:

      Yep, it’s a pretty cut and dry definition of rape.

      Thanks for the kind words, I try and include as much evidence as I can so that I’m as fair as possible. Thanks for sharing, if we just change one person’s perceptions of rape culture then that’s a victory.

  2. JoniOdin says:

    I agree with the article in general. It’s important to let the world know there are still people out there, who don’t agree with feminist hate.
    What I don’t agree with, is the definition of rape: for me it isn’t automatically rape just because one person is 30 and the other person is 16. If it happens consensually, it’s not rape.
    While I agree that feminists and society have double standards there, (because if the older person is male and the younger one female they cry “rape!”, but if it’s the other way round he was just “lucky”,) I don’t think the right way is to demonize females who have sex with younger men/boys; it would be to show that love isn’t rape just because you are below some arbitrary age line. Not every 25 year old man is a perverted animal just because his girlfriend is 17.

    • johnsalmon86 says:

      Thanks for the reply JoniOdin.

      I change my opinion on this pretty much daily. I’m not saying that relationships with age differences are inherently bad, or that women who sleep with younger men should be demonised, my main point is that, when it comes to teachers, there is a huge double standard when it comes to men and women. Women get off lightly because it’s assumed the sex was consensual, yet men are targeted hard because it’s assumed they’ve done nothing but groom the girl they slept with.

      Being a teacher gives you a tremendous amount of power and influence over young people. If you’ve taught, or been around, someone since they were 11 years old there’s absolutely no doubt in their mind that what they feel is real. The reality is, they’ve been shaped and moulded by your teacher for 4/5 years and to abuse that by involving yourself in a sexual relationship is going too far.

      There are lots of occasions of sexual contact that I don’t think are automatically rape, but statutory rape is different. No teacher should ever think of sleeping with their students, let alone anyone who is underage.

      If a random 30 year bloke/lass consensually sleeps with a random 16 year old lass/bloke or whatever, then, clearly, no rape has taken place. The argument then becomes a moral one, not a legal one.

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